There is a time and a place for court, but know that if your divorce goes to court…it is going to get expensive. Sometimes the only way we can get through to folks is to put words into dollars and cents. Going to court will be expensive…very, VERY expensive. It will require additional lawyer hours, court costs, filing fees and administrative costs. And then when it’s all done, you may not even receive the answer you were hoping for!
More than the costs, there is the loss of the decision making power. Think of it this way: when you go to court, someone else is going to make decisions for you, regarding two of the most important matters in your life: your children and your personal finances. Do you really want someone else making decisions about such important personal matters with no guarantee that it will go your way?
A better option for most people is to, instead, work towards negotiating the terms of your separation through mediators or collaborative lawyers, who will help you and your spouse, come to a viable separation agreement together. Such routes are generally faster, more emotionally empowering and notably less expensive than the family court process.